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In a seminar household, someone suddenly throws the audience a very common question, "How do I know if I married the right person?" Speaker Seminars see there was a large man sitting next to him so he answered "Yes .. it depends. Is the man next to you that your husband? "
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
"Let me answer this question is very burdensome."
Here are the answers ...
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the first moments of a relationship, you fell in love with your spouse. Phone calls are always eagerly awaited, so unfortunately missed the caresses, and so fond of his change of attitude-excited so much fun.
Fell in love with your partner is not a difficult thing. Falling in love is a very natural and spontaneous experience. No need to do anything .. So to say "fall" in love ...
People who are in love sometimes say, "I'm madly in love". Imagine the expression! As if you were just standing there doing nothing, and then suddenly something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous. But ... after several years of marriage, the euphoria of love it too will fade. This change is a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely .. phone calls become a bother, touch is not always expected and attitudes-attitudes which besemangat not so sweet things but instead nambahin tired of existing.
The symptoms of this stage vary with each individual. But if you think about your household, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage, when you fall in love, and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
And in this situation the question "Did I marry the right person?" Began to emerge, either from you or from your spouse, or from both of them .. Why Now!
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of love that never happens, you may begin to euphoria, the euphoria that love with others. And when the marriage finally kanda. Each partner's busy blaming it on unhappiness and look outside outlet. Various shapes and sizes for this impingement, menginkari loyalty is the most obvious. Some people turn to with his job, his hobby, a friendship, to feel bored watching TV, or the things that other flashy.
But you know what?! That the answer to this dilemma does not exist on the outside, it answers only in the marriage itself. Looking for an escape? Please. You can! Could have been or may be you are looking for an escape. Maybe then you'll feel better. But it is temporary, because after a few years you will experience the same conditions (as before in your marriage).
Due to (understand this carefully)
KEY TO SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON, BUT THE KEY IS HOW PEOPLE ARE LEARNING TO LOVE YOU FIND, AND CONTINUOUS ..!
Love is not a PASSIVE or spontaneous experience. Love WILL NEVER just happen. We will not be able to FIND love forever, but we have to work from day to day.
Correct the expression "love" Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. We have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Do not make mistakes for this one. Love is not MYSTERY.
There are some specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to the household running smoothly. Just as the laws of the universe (like gravity force), in a bond house there are also laws. Just as proper diet and exercise that right can make you physically stronger. Some habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If we know and apply the laws, surely we can "make" love not "FALL". Love in marriage is indeed a DECISION, not just FEELINGS ...!
We are in the world not to find the perfect person to love, BUT to learn to love people who are not perfect in a perfect manner.
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